How’s the new year treating you? I’m still adjusting to the rhythm of this fresh chapter, and I don’t know about you, but mine got messy very quickly, thanks to those famous New Year’s resolutions ...

In just one week, I said:

→ I’m going to work out 3 days a week 🚲🧘‍♀️

→ I’m going on a diet 🍟🍔

→ I’m going to do a ‘dry January’ 🍷🍺

→ I’m going to be 100% vegan 🫛🥕

→ I’m going to learn to knit 🧶👕

→ I’m going to do something else I can’t remember right now ... 😩🥴

Now, guess how many of those I actually did ... none ... and my immediate thought was, ‘son of a biscuit head, another year down the drain!’ ... ... ... wait, what? Slow that crazy train down. 🚂 Why did I do none of them? For a few reasons ...

1. I fell into the trap of ‘should-ing’ on myself and identified a bunch of things I ‘should’ do without checking in with myself first. Only one of them was something I actually wanted to do. 🧶👕

2. Now, I’ve botched a few recipes before 🎂 to know that list ⬆️ is a recipe for failure from the get-go!

3. We’re only 1-week into the New Year — it is nowhere close to a ‘year down the drain.’ Also, why do we carry this crazy notion that things have to start on a specific date, such as Jan. 1st, the first of a month, Mondays, etc? 

This whirlwind got me thinking of something that many folks struggle with and something that took me almost a year to truly figure out — the purpose of our lives.

Now, I don’t mean the purpose of our lives as the human race — I mean your   unique   WHY.

Determining what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest questions that we must try to answer. So, in an effort to get this thought percolating, I’m going to walk you through a 3-step process that I use with my clients. By the end, you should have a fairly solid tool you can immediately employ in your life to help give it a meaningful direction! 👟👟👟

There are three steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life:

1. Understanding the principle of choice
2. Creating your 'underlying principle’
3. Aligning your life with this underlying principle

1. Understanding The Principle of Choice

Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the power of choice:

“The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made”.

Choosing is the most important activity of your mind because by making a choice, you are proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life.

The choices you make in your life become your goal. And, if you are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why you should not accomplish them. Putting it out into the universe really does work! 🔮

Indecision, on the other hand, not only creates frustration and anxiety but can also confuse the subconscious mind about what you want. But it is important that the choices you make are made by you, in accordance with your true desires, purposes and aptitude.

Many of us let others make choices for us or make our choices according to what we think is 'correct,’ even if that means that we go against our wishes. What is right for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is by listening to what your heart says. Stop should-ing on yourself!

So, to begin with, make a list of things that interest you, things that you have always enjoyed, which make you feel better, and which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what obstacles you face.

🎨 Do you like doing something creative or something artistic?

🌳 Do you enjoy nature?

🏖️ Do you like the sea?

🫂Do you enjoy helping others?

🌎Do you get pleasure out of making a difference in other people’s lives?

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

● What thing(s) do you love to do?

● What is it that you love in this thing and why?

● How could you do this for money or make a living out of it?

2. Creating Your Underlying Principle

The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring theme. Maybe it is the contribution that keeps coming up, or an effect to seek or give love, or helping your parents cope with old age.

Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love to do and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘‘Mission Statement’’ It may even be a quote by a famous person or a philosophy that has influenced you.

Of course, as time progresses, this statement could evolve, but its soul will remain the same. Now, go write down your Mission Statement and share it!

3. Aligning Your LIFE With Your Underlying Principle

The final step in this journey is to map your path to your ultimate purpose and to begin implementing changes that help to align your daily life with your underlying purpose.

By making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to begin living this principle out each and every day. It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole.

If you realize that you love being amidst nature, plan out your holiday. Maybe an outing with your children could be enough to recoup your energy. If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, start to look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. On the other hand, you might even want to change your job or start a new business that is more in line with your mission.

So there you have it! By following along with the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And, as you go through this process, just remember,

“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” — Steve Maraboli

Click here for a FREE worksheet to help you with this process.

Remember, whether you’re in HR or not, these nuggets are universal.

To an intentional and purposeful year,

— Coach Monet 🌿


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