This week’s truth: you don’t need to get louder — you need to get real 🤨
Babe. Let’s cut through the noise...
You’re not tired because you’re weak. You’re tired because you’ve spent your whole damn life performing for everyone but yourself. You run the show at work, at home, in every group chat — but your own needs are always the footnote. That ends now.
Trending Leadership Truth: The Confidence Myth (and how to kill it)
Let’s be real: You’re smart as hell, but you still retype that email 6 times. You run sht*t, but somehow still apologize for your own ideas. You’ve got receipts, and yet you wonder if you’re “good enough.”
🔥 This week’s power move? Stop babying your brilliance. Kill the "just checking in" and "sorry to bother you" fluff. You’re not a nuisance. You’re the expert.
Psych tip: Hedging language tells your brain (and everyone else) that you’re unsure. Cut it off at the source. Stop. It.
Let the silence sit. Say your point. Then zip it. No spiraling. No justifying. Confidence isn’t how fast you talk, it’s how sure you are. That awkward pause? It’s power. Let them catch up to you.
Replace "perfect" with "true." Say what needs to be said, even if it’s imperfect. Even if your voice shakes. Because truth? That’s what makes people follow you. Not polish. (Spoiler alert: Confidence grows in truth-telling, not people-pleasing.)
Real Talk: You Can’t Stay Invisible and Expect to Be Seen
If you’re still hoping someone will magically notice how much you do, promote you, or hand you the mic without asking for it…
Here’s your wake-up call: Visibility is not vanity. It’s strategy.
3 visibility shifts for this week: 1️⃣ Speak up before you feel ready. (Confidence is built, not found.) 2️⃣ Stop apologizing for existing. (Repeated self-minimizing wires your nervous system to associate visibility with danger. Flip the script.) 3️⃣ Share your wins out loud. (You’re not bragging. You’re normalizing women taking up space. If someone calls you “too much,” that’s a them problem.)
Yep. That was me. Locked out. No keys. No coat. 11°F. Full meltdown mode. Mascara streaks, rage tears, the works. Then something kicked in:
I broke into my own damn house. Not calm, just resourceful. That’s leadership, babe.
✨ Psychology tip: Name it to tame it. Research shows that labeling your emotion (“I’m overwhelmed”) brings your logic back online. Hot mess mode? Call it what it is. It’s not weakness — it’s neurobiology.
✨ Bonus tip: Reframe it. You don’t have to love the chaos, but naming it, finding humor in it, or giving it meaning helps your brain complete the stress cycle. So yeah… round two of makeup happened. But so did round one of showing the hell up.
You don’t have to be perfect to be powerful. Just resourceful… and maybe a little unhinged. That’s leadership, too.
If you’re done performing, done shrinking, and done carrying the emotional load for everyone else… it’s time to come home to yourself. The EmpowHERd Academy is a 90-day, no-fluff coaching experience for women who are ready to stop performing and lead their own damn lives — for real.
This isn’t “mindset glitter.” It’s real emotional leadership. Real identity work. Real support. Real transformation.
